My husband and I recently dropped both our kids at college to start their Freshman and Sophomore years which means that we are embarking on a new phase in our journey. We married at 24 years old and have been raising children for the last 20 years. So now what?
After years of parenting, the house is suddenly quieter, and the daily routines that once revolved around children shift. This new phase of our lives offers an opportunity to reconnect with ourselves, strengthen relationships, and explore new interests. Here’s how I plan to embrace the empty nest phase with enthusiasm and purpose.
Time with My Spouse
The good news for me is that I like my husband. This phase will offer us a unique opportunity to invest in our relationship. Without the constant demands of parenting, we can focus on spending quality time together. Plan regular date nights, explore shared hobbies, or take up a new activity together. Whether it’s traveling, cooking, or simply enjoying a quiet evening at home with a bottle of wine, these moments can deepen our connection.
Prioritize Exercise and Wellness
Exercise has always made me a happier person. With more free time, I can devote more to my physical and mental well-being. Regular exercise not only improves overall health but also boosts mood and energy levels. I belong to a gym, have recently taken up yoga, and love going on daily walks with my dogs while listening to my favorite podcast.
Focus on Career
I am one of the lucky ones and really enjoy what I do and the people I work with. I’ll continue to invest time in my career in building relationships with clients and candidates.
However, for many people empty nesting can be the perfect time to refocus on their career or explore new professional opportunities. Whether looking to advance in your current job, switch careers, or even start your own business, this phase of life offers the freedom to pursue professional goals with renewed vigor. Take advantage of the extra time to invest in further education, networking, or personal development courses that align with your career aspirations.
Spend Time with Friends
I have always tried to prioritize friendships, but sometimes friendships can take a backseat when raising children. My husband and I are looking forward to continuing to connect with the people we care about. We have planned regular outings and will host gatherings at our home. I’m a big advocate that you should spend time with people who bring you joy. Surround yourself with positive people who share your interests and make an effort to nurture these relationships.
Explore the World: Travel More
With fewer family obligations, we have the freedom to explore the world. Whether it’s taking that dream vacation or simply having a weekend getaway, I am excited about the opportunity to travel more. Not only does it provide a break from routine, but it also offers new experiences and perspectives. We have already planned a few long weekend trips that had been put off. First up is Chicago to visit with some friends!
Try New Things (or not!)
The empty nest phase is an ideal time to explore new hobbies and interests. Whether it’s taking up painting, learning a new language, or trying your hand at gardening, engaging in new activities can bring a sense of accomplishment and happiness. While I know this is my time to experiment and discover passions that may have been put on hold during my parenting years, I’m struggling to think of things that I might enjoy. I realize that the key is to keep an open mind and embrace the excitement of trying something new but in reality, I may just stick with watching my favorite series, listening to my favorite podcasts, playing board games, and tackling home projects that need attention. We shall see!
Give Back
Volunteering can be a rewarding way to spend newfound free time. Whether it’s working with local charities, mentoring young people, or supporting causes you’re passionate about, giving back to the community can bring a sense of purpose and fulfillment. I have always been passionate about supporting women in leadership, so I spend my time volunteering on the Alumni Board at Sacred Heart Academy, an all-girls school. Volunteering at my alma mater is a meaningful way for me to stay engaged and contribute to a cause that brings me joy.
Help Aging Parents
Over the past year, my time has shifted more towards helping my aging parents. This has been a rewarding experience for me and one that I feel immense gratitude to be a part of. Whether it’s assisting with errands, managing their healthcare, or simply spending quality time together, I appreciate the opportunity to make things easier in their lives.
Visiting Children at College
While the empty nest phase is about rediscovering oneself, it’s also important to maintain a connection with your children. We already have dates on the calendar for parents' weekend that we are looking forward to. These visits offer an opportunity to support them as they navigate their new independence while also giving us the chance to share in their experiences. However, it’s equally important to strike a balance and allow them the space to grow.
Empty nesting is not an end but rather the beginning of a new chapter in life. It’s not easy, but by embracing this phase with an open heart, you can find joy in reconnecting with your spouse, pursuing personal and professional goals, and exploring new horizons. It’s a time to invest in your relationships, health, and passions while also cherishing the moments you spend with family and friends. With the right mindset, the empty nest can be a fulfilling and exciting period of self-discovery and growth.
P.S. The one caveat is that empty nesting is much easier when you know your children are happy and living their best life at university. All bets are off if they are miserable because you will be miserable too!